Dear Julie*,
Let me tell you about this girl I met this summer. We hung out for couple of days together. I felt comfortable, relaxed and completely connected. And we kept on talking for almost 12 hours everyday, nonstop! I didn't know I could still talk for that long.
Once I came back home, I would write her letters. Why? Because emotions ran high and I'm not gifted enough to express everything in speech. I wrote what I felt about her. I told how excited I was with the newly developed friendship. I told how easy she made me feel during that short period of time. Did I tell how overwhelmingly impressed I was with her personality?
There was one thing I didn't quite say though. We talked a great deal about having crushes. The more time I spent with her, the more I kept on thinking how difficult it was for someone to come close to her and not to have a crush. I didn't tell that any guy would fall for her, and actually be extremely proud to have her. Proud to have such a wonderful person as a girlfriend or wife. For obvious reasons I definitely didn't tell that if I had to fall, I would probably fall for someone like her. What's wrong in saying/admitting that? Well, for starters, I'm a firm believer of the idea that a boy and a girl can be friends (very close friends) without getting romantic with each other.
I think along the way of life we meet person who excites us, and we meet person who helps us calm down no matter what. For some we develop special borderline feelings. I don't think there's anything wrong about it. If I feel that way for a girl, and she finds out about that, I wouldn't be too unhappy. It's always preferable to face it rather than to wonder about it. If I have a key and I have to open a lock, the only way to do it is to try if it fits into. We always have the right key, but not the right lock. Does it make any sense? Acknowledging the mixed feeling is the most difficult part; but when both of us are matured enough, we would take things normally I guess.
Anyway, after it's all said and done, when I see that friend again, I'll just tell her to kiss. You know.. Keeping it simple and sweet (KISS) :-P . Also, I would tell her that story when love met friendship. Love asked, 'Why are you here when I'm already here?' Friendship smiled and said, 'To put a smile where you leave only tears.'
An interesting question came to my mind: Would I go about the things the same way for a guy friend too? Such as texting once in a while and discussing 'random feelings', writing letters, or walking very, very late at night? Probably not (except for walking at night hahaha!). Friendship between same sexes is much more straight forward I guess. You spend more time doing things and less time wondering how your interaction will be judged. There is less puzzles and no sexual tension. I wouldn't have to worry if I'm sending misleading signals.
Hey do you realize you know too much about me now? Alarmingly too much! And it's been asymmetric flow of information lately! Okay here's another thing you need to know about my letters. I put date on my letters when I finish it. That does not necessarily mean I wrote the letter on one sitting. Almost always I keep on writing the same letter over multiple weeks!
Take care.
~Sulario~
08-October-2015
P.S: We're good, right?
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*Fictional
Dear Julie*,
Let me tell you about this girl I met this summer. We hung out for couple of days together. I felt comfortable, relaxed and completely connected. And we kept on talking for almost 12 hours everyday, nonstop! I didn't know I could still talk for that long.
Once I came back home, I would write her letters. Why? Because emotions ran high and I'm not gifted enough to express everything in speech. I wrote what I felt about her. I told how excited I was with the newly developed friendship. I told how easy she made me feel during that short period of time. Did I tell how overwhelmingly impressed I was with her personality?
There was one thing I didn't quite say though. We talked a great deal about having crushes. The more time I spent with her, the more I kept on thinking how difficult it was for someone to come close to her and not to have a crush. I didn't tell that any guy would fall for her, and actually be extremely proud to have her. Proud to have such a wonderful person as a girlfriend or wife. For obvious reasons I definitely didn't tell that if I had to fall, I would probably fall for someone like her. What's wrong in saying/admitting that? Well, for starters, I'm a firm believer of the idea that a boy and a girl can be friends (very close friends) without getting romantic with each other.
I think along the way of life we meet person who excites us, and we meet person who helps us calm down no matter what. For some we develop special borderline feelings. I don't think there's anything wrong about it. If I feel that way for a girl, and she finds out about that, I wouldn't be too unhappy. It's always preferable to face it rather than to wonder about it. If I have a key and I have to open a lock, the only way to do it is to try if it fits into. We always have the right key, but not the right lock. Does it make any sense? Acknowledging the mixed feeling is the most difficult part; but when both of us are matured enough, we would take things normally I guess.
Anyway, after it's all said and done, when I see that friend again, I'll just tell her to kiss. You know.. Keeping it simple and sweet (KISS) :-P . Also, I would tell her that story when love met friendship. Love asked, 'Why are you here when I'm already here?' Friendship smiled and said, 'To put a smile where you leave only tears.'
An interesting question came to my mind: Would I go about the things the same way for a guy friend too? Such as texting once in a while and discussing 'random feelings', writing letters, or walking very, very late at night? Probably not (except for walking at night hahaha!). Friendship between same sexes is much more straight forward I guess. You spend more time doing things and less time wondering how your interaction will be judged. There is less puzzles and no sexual tension. I wouldn't have to worry if I'm sending misleading signals.
Hey do you realize you know too much about me now? Alarmingly too much! And it's been asymmetric flow of information lately! Okay here's another thing you need to know about my letters. I put date on my letters when I finish it. That does not necessarily mean I wrote the letter on one sitting. Almost always I keep on writing the same letter over multiple weeks!
Take care.
~Sulario~
08-October-2015
P.S: We're good, right?
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*Fictional
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